3 Valuable Life Lessons Learned from the Passing of a Dear Friend

Michael Miller |

This is dedicated to my dear friend and brother in Christ...Rodney Pfahning who passed away yesterday. Rodney, I pray I honor your memory by sharing your heart and your valuable legacy worth more than anything money can buy. We all hurt deeply at your passing but know that heaven just gained a great soldier and a warm loving greeter to welcome us when our day comes. I love you and miss you brother!

This is probably the hardest thing I have ever had to write as the weight of honoring a true hero by sharing some of the valuable lessons that can be learned from the life he lived is hard to carry. However, God has put it on my heart and I must share them with you thru the strength that only he can bring. These are all things we tend to struggle with in our busy lives...myself included. Here they are:

Lesson #1: Live your life as if today were your last day. We all get caught up in the crazy hectic day-to-day activities we call life. It is so easy to forget that God can call us at any time! Rodney died unexpectedly and he was only 59. I am so thankful that he took time to travel with his wife and spent time with his kids and grandkids. I am so thankful for the time he invested in his church family. He was such a blessing to every life he touched. He knew where his true treasures were and he will be greatly missed.

Lesson #2: Focus on what is lasting and meaningful - Your Legacy! Part of living your life as if today were your last is understanding that you cannot take material things with you and in the end the only thing that matters is how you loved God and others. That is what is eternally significant. God blesses us by putting people in our life. This is truly a gift that we should cherish and not take for granted. Rodney got that and lived that way. He was a great husband, father, grandfather, and friend to so many. He was that warm face that greeted you on Sunday mornings as if you were the only person in the world. He had a servant heart like no other...always working in the shadows and not looking for recognition. He cherished his family and was a proud Poppy to his grandsons. He was so loved that the hallways of the hospital he was taken to were filled with those he had touched. I don't know about you but that is the kind of legacy I want to leave!

You can start by asking yourself these questions:

  • "When I die and I am in God's presence what do I want him to say about my life?"
  • "What is really important to God?"
  • "How do I want to be remembered?"

Lesson #3: Live a balanced life in alignment with your values. I have a major confession to make. This is my biggest struggle! If you are not taking care of yourself spiritually, physically, and financially you are limited in what you can do for others. This requires balance as we all tend to focus more on the things we are most comfortable with and put off the things we are less motivated to address. The best way to accomplish this is by first spending time in the word and thru prayer. Then sit down with someone you trust that will help hold you accountable and also be a good listener. If you want to learn more about each of these components don't hesitate to reach out to me. I will also be writing about them in the future. We all know the miserable rich person. This is someone who is not living a balanced life in alignment with their values. My goal is for us not to join them and leave a legacy rich with blessings and fulfillment.

I pray that this helps you to live your balanced life today full of blessings and eternal significance! Rodney would want the same.

Best of Blessings,